Fight Fair

I've been inspired recently by the lifechurch.tv podcast. Check it out if you haven't already. Vicky and I committed to listening to a recent series they delivered on marriage called 'From this day forward'. The series holds some great principles, some specifically for those married, some for those not yet married and some that can be applied to any and every relationship.

The five week course was made of of five commitments. The from this day forward we will:

Seek God
Fight Fair
Have fun
Stay pure
Never give up

I would seriously recommend you take a listen.

The second week looked at fighting fair and I was challenged by the question that when we fight (not if)... do we fight for resolution or conflict?

Do we fight to win?
Do we fight out of stubbornness?
Do we fight for the sake of fighting?
Do we fight out of aggressiveness or defensiveness?
Do we fight to to maintain our moral high ground?

Or do we fight for resolution?
Do we fight to sort out and move forward?
Do we fight for the benefit of the relationship?
Do we fight to bring things out in the open?
Do we fight to form grow in love and care for one another?

I'm coming across situations that mean I have to fight? My first, human instinct is to fight to win, but God is teaching me to fight for resolution. That's hard, I need to choose my language carefully, I need to be honest and open, I need to care about the relationship more than I care about winning....

Do you relate to this? Do you have any tough conversations that are coming up, situations that have wound you up and struggling to deal with them....

Fight for resolution, fight because you care, fight because it is worth fighting for
Don't fight just to win, don't just fight your corner